You may have heard about hookup culture and the rise of the fuckboy. But who would guess that the fuckgeezer is now also alive and well? And, apparently, extremely horny. He gets handsy minutes into a first date, often proudly opines about his penis, and may even ghost you after a night of passion. I'm not talking about mild flirting or clever innuendo. I'm referencing full-on sexting, personal graphic queries, and unwanted pawing.
What you choose to talk about in a first meeting or first conversation can make or break a relationship. I am hardly a prude and would likely be categorized as sex-positive. Sex is a natural part of life and, with the right partner and meds, we can enjoy it up to our triple digits. This post is also not intended to man-bash. If I dated women, I could probably come up with a female equivalent. In fact, if any of my male readers would like to write Part 4 of this series, have at it!
This week, I encountered multiple men who vaulted immediately and obviously into sex talk. They asked highly specific and personal questions within hours of meeting me. Shaken and insecure, I even asked a couple of my platonic male friends if they found my profile or my personality overly seductive.
Many middle-aged men have been in sexless marriages or lost their partners. They have strong physical needs. I get that. But many guys seem to see the dating apps as the human equivalent of DoorDash.
They believe they can just order up a vagina and it will arrive within an hour. But most of my female friends share my view of dating and relationships. Our brains, hearts, and VJs are hardwired together and we often need physical attraction, mental connection, and at least a little wooing to set us aflutter.
