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Questions may be edited for clarity and length, and may appear either in print or online. We just want to fuck people we like; how do we ask them without breaching major social boundaries? But anyway. Adult Friend Finder is another common site for swinging and group sex. If your immediate area is a strikeout, consider doing some research and checking out polyamory meet ups, sex parties or swinger parties in larger places like Des Moines, Minneapolis or Chicago.
There is also a trusty, timeworn method of finding people to have weird sex with: hire them. If you and your partner are in a committed relationship and inexperienced in group sex, you may not offer much for potential new partners to get excited about. Treat it like you would any dating situation: Spend time with them, get to know them, feel it out and get comfortable.
Find out how this person feels, or if they have any stories to tell. That will help you decide if it might be something they are interested in. Keep in mind that having sex with someone you are both close with can result in unforeseen complications. Be sure you talk all of this through, ideally with everyone involved. You or your partner may experience jealousy or other challenges that you did not count on.
My cautionary tone aside, there are lots of ways to explore multiple partner sex safely and respectfully. You and your partner can figure out what works best. Happy hunting!
