Posted March 1, In the Western world, people in modern relationships often choose not to have get married or even live together. They have, and prefer to have, their separate existences and their separate spaces where they can enjoy downtime by themselves Bulcroft, et al. They agree to be in a relationshipβwhich can be exclusive or nonexclusiveβas long as they can have their own separate lives. This may require limiting contact between the romantic partners and limiting the frequency with which they see each other.
People often continue to have separate circles of friends that they meet on a regular basis. Romantic partners often choose to have separate bank accounts. They work out separately at different gyms. They even sometimes go on vacation separately and happily take jobs in different cities miles apart from each other.
The preference for no commitment or minimal commitment is not exclusive to relationships. Avoiding romantic commitment by choosing not to be in a relationship has become increasingly common. Hookups are non-committal. They fit right into our ego-centric and superficial attitude toward romance. If you are in a committed relationship, you have some obligation to satisfy your partner emotionally and sexually.
You may need to spend hours down there to please your partner with your tongue. None of this is expected of you in a casual hookup. Hookups are just sex.
If the sex is bad for the other person, you probably will never hear from him or her again. But who cares, if it is just a hookup? Social media and dating apps have made it exceedingly easy to turn our romantic life into an indefinite series of hookups with ever-new sex partners.
