Make an Appointment: jess wildwomenwellness. One of my mentors is a fantastic relationship expert residing in St. George, Utah.
The way I watched him and his mentor create emotional connection with a couple in chaos in a room was pure magic. Relationships are hard work. We have to work hard to not behave like a child when we are triggered. We have to work hard to not allow our childhood to dictate our behavior.
We have to work hard to be accountable when we want to blame. This is why if you want a relationship, you better be ready to open up, be brave, and break your patterns. My goal and wish is for more couples to seek help as preventive medicine and a normal part of relationship maintenance.
Often times, couples work comes too late or it is used as a weapon. It can be a cry for help at the final hour that may feel safe for one and not for another. Or perhaps both partners are scared in their own way. Codependency vs. Healthy communication and healthy boundaries fuel relationship success. Attachment style impacts an individual across a lifetime and will impact every type of relationship— familial, platonic, sexual, romantic, and partnerships.
I assess all my couples from an attachment lens and educate about anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment. Overall there is always hope. Underneath all content there is a familiar pattern and cycle of responding to emotions and needs in yourself and others. Tapping into that and learning to understand your part in your cycle unleashes your ability to communicate with others in a new way. Regardless if that changes your relationship— you will learn how your emotions, attachment and trauma effects you individually and your relationships across your lifespan.
