I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you've specifically requested. Unsubscribe at any time. When I put up my profile, it was minus a photo with a bit about me and specifying that I was only interested in a relationship and the age range was I was 27 at the time. I heard from guys right up to seventy years old and received a lot of messages and winks.
Almost all of the messages were inappropriate too forward with some being explicit. If we have our feet planted fairly firmly in reality and we know who we are and are relatively personally secure, trying to meet potential partners online can actually be an enjoyable experience albeit punctuated with gritted teeth moments from dealing with time wasters and inappropriate folk, but if going online in an attempt to meet people is a means of avoiding vulnerability, of escaping ourselves, of looking for attention and basically external solutions to our internal issues, we can unwittingly end up feeling aggrieved because we on some level hoped to strike gold immediately or very quickly.
Who do you know in this century, no scratch that- this decade , who met up with the first person they linked up with online and lived happily ever after? What are the odds? Even the people I know who met online in the late nineties encountered some foolishness and effery before that happened!
Why do we go on a site like Plenty of Fish or apps like Tinder or the myriad of sites and apps out there, and expect to strike gold? If we approach dating post breakup with the same or even worse mentality that we had in previous relationships, we stand to replicate the same problems.
We must get grounded. We must home in on whether we are able to deal with the emotional consequences of engaging virtually with strangers because if we have a tendency to to see potential very quickly or to feel attached very quickly, we have a duty of care to go slower and to recognise those signs in us so that we can be more self-aware and pay attention.
