I always finish on top. This is about the exploration of sex, the feeling of one-ness, an opportunity to go on a spiritual journey, the chance to be given the tools to be a better lover and, in turn, a better human being. I meet the therapist, a charming, intelligent Dane called Barbora, who welcomes me into her front room.
My wife and I have been together nearly nine years and the vagaries of raising a family can take its toll on our sex life. It piles on the pressure. For many of us, Barbora explains, sex is just about the release, the chance to relieve tension. And, with stress more prevalent, the quality of sex suffers. Tantra Therapy is, as the great Marvin Gaye might have said, all about sexual healing.
Sarong only. I am I start cross-legged as Barbora begins the initial exploration of my body with her hands, first with my eyes closed and then with eyes open. Sweet, sweet nerves get the better of me and I am clueless. I go from sitting, to standing, laying on my back, front and back again while being caressed, rubbed not like that and repeatedly repositioned across the session. Things get rigorous yet, as long as you remember to breathe deeply and relax, Tantra Treatment reaches the spiritual parts a massage cannot.
If a massage is about muscles, then tantra is about energy. Make no mistake: Barbora touches your entire body. I maintain that Paul Simon did some of his best work without Art Garfunkel. This is a physical reminder that pleasure is about the whole body, rather than just the mind and groin; Tantra Therapy is engineered to help you have a more spiritual connection with your partner and, given how key continual deep breathing is, yourself.
Dear reader, please know that I did this just for you. Some people have been known to ejaculate just from having their body touched. In some instances, twice. As Barbora says, there is no shame in that. As with a massage, I remained a motionless lump of clay which, it turns out, is the correct approach. Once the treatment is finished, what was instantly telling was how I felt.
