Posted November 3, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. And yet, the stories I end up hearing anyway can be intriguing. They sometimes prefer a romantic partner who lives thousands of miles away. Or who has a job or other obligations that keep them away for long stretches of time.
Then there are the single people who fall for the married people who insist they are going to leave their spouse, they just have to find the right time. Some of the people I hear from have committed to a romantic partner. Some are married.
The most intriguing subgroup are those who adore their partners. They love them. They have no complaints. They would not, in a million years, want to hurt them. But they no longer want to be with them. They just want to be single and on their own. They are chronically attracted to unavailable partners. When they do get the romantic relationship they so desired, and maybe even get married, they want to run away. Maybe people like this really do have issues and could benefit from seeing a mental health professional.
But there is another group of people who are attracted to unavailable partners. They are not commitment-phobic. Living single is not just better than being in a bad relationship ; it is not a default status or a Plan B. Living single is how they live their best, most fulfilling, most authentic, and most meaningful life. When they get into a romantic relationship and it ends, they often feel relieved rather than devastated.
If they have somehow ended up in a committed romantic relationship, they are going to want a lot of space. But if a committed long-term romantic relationship is not what they really want, then why do they even go through the motions of dating?
