Are you and your partner arguing constantly? Past efforts to improve your relationship probably failed or lacked staying power, making you feel stuck and tiredβ two steps forward three steps back.
Really, any committed couple can greatly benefit from couples therapy. The only requirement would be that the couple wants to grow, be better, and step up their game.
The starting point is irrelevant. Couples bring powerful and complex dynamics to therapy, requiring therapists to perform both mental and clinical gymnasticsβthe part I love, btw! Some couples find the right therapist directly out of the gates, and some need to try-out a few before finding the right one.
Finding the right therapist might be challenging, but it will be worth it! So, what is right? Basically, you need to like and trust this person. If your therapist is amazing on paper but a lousy fit for you in the office, you will likely be dissatisfied with your results.
It mattersβa lot. Check out this article on the importance of having a good fit with your therapist. Although my education and approach to couples therapy is heavily rooted in Systems Theory, I definitely draw upon the Gottman Method when working with most couples, especially at the onset of therapy, when structure and organization are needed most.
