As a result, some curiosities peeped their heads over the boundaries of my once happily repressed existence. I summoned the courage to join an online BDSM dating site. I got a response almost immediately from a man who decided to fill me in on how things worked. He proceeded to tell me my name would henceforth be Sub, advised me that he was to be addressed as His Majesty King Something, and ordered me to phone him.
This was too much, too fast, and too weird. I gave him what I thought was a plausible excuse for my decision not to proceed to avoid hurting his feelings. I tried blocking him, but he seemed to have several identities on the same site. I deactivated my account. Fear Of Flying. The same creeps, jerks, and assholes on standard dating sites are on BDSM-centric sites. And some will utilize the trappings of consensual kink to nonconsensually slime people.
So what can you do? A kink-friendly profile on a non-kink site is another option. I met my current dominant partner on OkCupid because my profile reveals that I happen to be a big old pervert. That caught his eye. Kinky folks are everywhere! You also have offline options, FOF. Essentially, dating in the kink world is no different than dating in the default world.
Always meet on an equal footing first. Until now. I am a natural sub, but my girlfriend asked to switch and for me to dominate her.
I want to please her, and that usually keeps me trying over and over, but. It might be better if she subbed for someone else, GUOB, while continuing to dominate you. I am married to a man who is into BDSM. I am happy to do lighter stuff, but I am not interested in squeezing into an uncomfortable corset and using a flogger on him.
