Skip navigation! Story from Dating. Saskia Morrison-Thiagu. Last Updated 18May, , am. But alas, I am not. Casual dating isn't a new concept, but it has become far easier to be non-committal in the current dating climate. Dating apps are more popular than ever, with 3. A hookup is literally just a swipe away, which can make it more appealing than the dreaded alternative: commitment. Sharon Draper, a psychologist at eharmony, says that casual dating is just dating without the goal of a committed, long-term relationship in mind.
When I asked my friends, I received mixed reviews. From tips on making it work to lamenting that it's impossible, everyone had their own take, but ultimately all of them agreed that you can evade feelings, but it takes work. I also spoke to a full-service sex worker, whose job requires both intimacy and sex. There are plenty of people that are looking for a genuine connection on dating apps β but plenty of others that are only looking for sex.
This can make things tricky because one person might only want sex but in order to get it, they might make promises of commitment that they have no intention of delivering on. A couple of years ago, I went on a date with a guy that I knew was likely to just be a one-night thing.
He ghosted me. I recently watched a TikTok that delves into this. If, like me, you have an anxious-attachment style aka a fear of abandonment being around avoidant people can provoke anxiety. Do I have genuine feelings for someone I just met, or is it just my anxious-attachment style?
Do I like them or am I really just craving emotional intimacy? Having feelings, of course, is totally normal, and being a person who feels and expresses their emotions intensely can make life more interesting. Romance is meant to be fun and while it can sometimes lead to heartbreak, the uncertainty can add to the excitement. And yes, some people might be able to turn their feelings off β but there's no shame in not being able to.
