Does it feel like arguments with your partner are constantly running in circles? Along with that, you both may feel misunderstood and unheard. This is a reassuring reminder that all couples get into conflicts with each other. Yes, even the ones who look like they have it all together on social media. This is a part of what it means to be in a committed relationship.
That makes communicating well very much a key aspect to a stronger relationship. While some couples find themselves spiraling in accusations and misunderstandings, others are able to work through the conflict in a more productive, respectful, and loving way.
However, you will be able to step back and reflect on why miscommunication is happening, and how you can move forward with the conversation more productively. All joking aside, having a basic knowledge of these 4 layers can help you understand where the miscommunication breakdown happened.
Take a look at each level:. Self-revealing layer: You do not know what the green item is, and that makes you feel uncomfortable. The need to be right stems from an insecurity within, and may be a defense mechanism that can sabotage healthy communication within a relationship. The cause could also come from a mental health issue like an anxiety disorder. Active listening is a positive practice that allows you to closely listen without judgment or advice, and paraphrase to reflect on what was said.
Typically, your partner just wants to be heard. There are major benefits to your relationship when you practice active listening.
