Somebody once said that all this sexual acting out comes down to one thing. They sometimes do things solely for the pure pleasure they can get out of it without any need or desire for love to go along with it so fetishes and extreme sex acts are probably a bit of both, the need for love and the search for pleasure. All the psychobabble in the world cannot touch the soul of hedonism. The pursuit of pleasure for its own sake is a high virtue and a great thing for a lot of people.
For some people, it just comes down to pleasure. Kink comes from within you. Kink is bodily fluids, leather, latex, whips, bondage, BDSM, polyamory, group sex, water sports and paddles. In surveys, most American couples claim to have sex together less than three times a week.
Men are generally kinkier than women. People are obsessed with sex and many are way out there. Many straight guys seem to like to wear lingerie, especially panties. Your kink profile or lack of it comes from a combination of genetics, upbringing, societal indoctrination. Combine this with the kink profile of your partners and you could end up with anything; a great experience or a negative one. I believe I like what I like which is mainly big-breasted brunettes because I was born that way.
The mainstream kink fetishes are bondage and pain play. You can enjoy the physical and emotional experience of the sex without feeling the guilt you normally do when in control of your sexuality. Some people just like it because of some innate feeling they have. They like the feeling being tied up and spanked. Pain feels good. It parallels pleasure.
Some people like being spanked, hit, caned, bit, etc. It all releases adrenalin or energy. Your whole body feels it, not just your genitals. People say the pain sensation goes right to their genitals and makes them feel great. Pain leads to the release of endorphins pleasure-enhancement cells in the brain and testosterone which is the sexual arousal hormone.
