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I've been unwittingly and unwillingly put into the parent role not 'allowing' him to do fun things - i. Can any level headed mumsnetters out there confirm that Adult Friend Finder is a deal breaker before I go home and have the final argument tonight? Do you know whether he has just visited the site, or whether he set up a profile and additionally whether he's been chatting to people. If the latter, that would be a deal breaker?
If the former, maybe just curiosity. I think the internet allows us to view things we would never have done in the past in RL. With all of these sites there are various levels of involvement. You generally have to register and create a profile if you want to browse other people's profiles. That doesn't cost anything and, if you are a man, doesn't really get you anywhere.
You can't initiate conversations with anyone unless you pay. Indeed, on some sites you can't respond when someone else contacts you unless you pay. Even on the sites that allow you to respond without paying, someone has to intiate the conversation with you first. It is extremely rare for a straight man to be contacted by women via such sites. Almost all conversations are initiated by men. If a man is contacted at all, it will either be by gay men or men pretending to be women.
By the way, he won't have paid for Big Bertha to get her kit of on webcam. AFF doesn't allow you to do that kind of thing. It is similar to dating sites in that it allows people to make contact. There are sites where he can pay Big Bertha to get her kit off but this isn't one of them. My view is that if he hasn't paid any money it may just be curiousity. If he has paid money to contact people that is a deal breaker. However, I'm a man so feel free to disregard my views!
