Can you have sex with someone for years without dropping the L-bomb or calling what you have a relationship?
For some people, the answer is yes, yes, yes. I t is 30 years since the release of When Harry Met Sally. That way, if I die before I finish I know how it comes out. That, my friend, is a dark side.
For Rachel, a bisexual woman in her early 30s, the answer is an enthusiastic yes, yes, yes! Rachel always felt she knew exactly where they stood, because they talked about the nature of their relationship, discussing the limits of what they expected from each other.
As someone who has never had this sort of relationship, I found it difficult at first to get my head around it β not because I felt judgmental, but because I felt admiring. I think you have to be quite emotionally mature to be able to accept something for what it is, without trying to turn it into something more, or denigrate it for not being something it is not.
You might end up spending most of your time with this person, making decisions about your life based on their input, using them as your main source of emotional support. It may sound too good to be true, but for psychosexual therapist Kate Moyle , it does not have to be.
