To submit a question, click here. Q: Divorced singles like me are struggling. Are we to just pretend that those feelings and emotions never happened? That is something that I haven't seen talked about anywhere. A: Such a fantastic question, and something that so many wrestle with, whether they are divorced or widowed.
But once one becomes accustomed to not stopping at kissing and cuddling, once one becomes accustomed to the beauty and closeness of sexual intimacy, it can be very difficult to go back to self-control and restraint. The first thing to recognize is that, even within the marriage relationship, self-control and restraint should still be practiced. And consent matters. Whether single or married, self-control and restraint are principles that should never be abandoned.
Now, the specific application of those principles is different inside versus outside of marriage. You are now someone who knows what marital intimacy is like. That will always be true. The law of chastity is the same for everyone in every circumstance: no sexual relations except with your husband or wife to whom you are legally and lawfully wedded.
So the question is not how can we go back to the way we were? You have to believe and know that there is a way to stay morally pure. Those are the principles. But how? How do you do it? Elder Gary E. So you need a revised game plan. So how do you stay spiritually safe? Spend your time in the light, both literally and spiritually. Go on hikes, go to parks, go to matinees, plan to part ways earlier in the evening instead of waiting until late at night when bodies are tired and inhibitions are low.
Want to stay up talking? Do so over the phone or go to an all-hours breakfast restaurant. Being places where there are other people, but enough privacy to have personal conversations, is a great guideline.
