Many single Catholic women hope not to be single forever, but struggle to find a good husband. Until recently, I was one of them. I got married at the beginning of , and around the same time, I published a book called Pretty Good Catholic about dating and finding a spouse as a Catholic. Based on my research for the book and my own experience, here are some tips for meeting more Catholic men, getting more dates, and ultimately finding a husband.
First, expand your social circle. These days, most young Catholics turn to online dating to meet new eligible singles. Believe it or not, meeting in real life is still possible , too. And go national, or even international: attend Catholic or Christian conferences, join pilgrimages, and go on mission trips. Rekindle interests—or find new ones—that include a social element. Recreational sports are great for this, as is any form of partner dancing: swing, ballroom, salsa, etc.
I find that a disproportionate number of Catholics attend public dances! Challenge yourself to meet at least one new single guy at every social event. Put your phone away, look around the room, smile, and make eye contact.
Your appearance will matter. Regardless, figure out what colors and silhouettes enhance your natural beauty the most. Of course, taking good care of your health and hygiene goes a long way, too.
Many men have told me they struggle to know whether a woman is interested in them, and that they need some encouragement before they make a move. So learn the art of appropriate flirtation! Do it! Where do you usually go? Pace yourself. During this time, slow-roll both physical affection and emotional intimacy. Think of this initial stage of dating as a time to build a friendship as a foundation for discerning marriage more concretely later. During this stage, it is perfectly okay to go on dates with more than one person, if you have the opportunity and want to.
