Should I share my fetish? It can be daunting when we feel a part of our experience or identity will be judged, and may even be shamed, by someone else. Especially in relationships, when we want our partners to love and accept all parts of us it is particularly intimidating. There is a difference between a fetish and a kink.
A fetish is different in that it is an act or environment that must be present in order to experience sexual arousal or enjoyment. Unfortunately, many common kinks and fetishes are still stigmatized. If it is important to you, and the connection you want to have with a partner, you should share your sexual preferences, kinky or not. And if a particular act is a fetish it is vital to share it with your partner in order to have a sexual dynamic that is pleasurable to you.
Be honest, direct, and vulnerable. It can be enticing to use humor to make a potentially awkward conversation easier, but clear communication is likely to have a better result. Be ready to educate.
There still remains much misinformation, ignorance, and even fear about the kink community. Be prepared to give your partner time to learn about the specific experiences you enjoy and what they mean to you on a deeper level.
Share how you found your fetish and any experiences you had learning either through educational content or the kink community. It can be great to provide resources for your partner if they are interested in learning more on their own time. It is also likely that they may have some misconceptions and may make some inaccurate assumptions.
