Whether you're dating someone new or just really want to give passionate oral sex to your current partner, everybody—and every vagina—is different. What pleased a previous partner may not work for your current sexual interest, and you may find yourself wondering whether there are other techniques out there that you're missing.
We spoke with certified sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph. With over two dozen techniques, we're sure one of these will help you do the trick. For many women, orgasming is physical and mental; they need to feel relaxed and in the mood. Begin by making out and exploring other areas first," she says, such as:. The breasts and nipples are very sensitive, and beginning by lighting stroking, circling, or licking the nipples, or gently cupping the breasts, can really turn your partner on during foreplay.
As you begin heading down, build up the anticipation by nibbling or licking their inner thigh, Richmond recommends. Feel free to explore other areas with your mouth or hands as well, like the neck, stomach, and butt. Stroke the vulva or clit with underwear still on. Again, you're building anticipation—you could even pull their underwear to the side when you're ready for contact.
Try running your tongue up and down with underwear still on, or using your breath to warm up the whole area. Never forget it. Starting off, it's a good idea to go slow. Dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it to start building sensation.
Listen to and feel your partner respond as you lick their clit either up and down or side to side. You should be able to tell which they prefer, and it never hurts to ask if they like it! Some like this and some don't, but you can try lightly sucking on the clit between strokes if they're into it.
