Real passion needs substance. True intimacy comes from emotional meeting of the minds and sighs Not just the bodies. Glad to see you recognize the difference. You mention both that the sex was good, then later say it was empty and meaningless. There is a mixed message here Is it that no real connection was there to develop?
That's about right. Coach, sex with someone known to you means a mental connection. This includes a carnal undertone in all other aspects of living. Even friends with benefits can share a wink over coffee.. Casual sex is less connected.
Strangers stimulating each other's nerve endings. As taboo and exciting as masturbating. Feels ok, takes the edge off, but not something to wink in the mirror about Coach, what I meant was that the sex was technically good: He knew what buttons to push, was more than equipped, and persistant in that he wanted me to enjoy myself.
However, despite all these wonderful things, the sex felt empty because of the lack of emotion- which was expected because it was a one night stand. I guess I just didn't realize how empty and indifferent I would feel towards it. Sex with him was nothing but a stimulation of nerve endings, as William rightly described it. I could have gotten the same sensation from a sex toy.
You have made your thoughts and feelings clear. It would seem there is basic sex- a physical thing full stop, then there is the value added sex that 'Really' is hinting at.. Everyone has their own take, and each kind has its place, but it would seem the first kind leaves one just as hungry and alone tomorrow, and the second kind has a virtually limitless potential for thrills and happiness. And frequency. Just one man's views though. Had my first one night stand last night. Met a guy at a club, had chemistry, went home, had lots and lots of sex.
