When I was younger, most LGBTQ sex scenes I saw didn't show much beyond two people passionately making out, a little hand-over-the-crotch action, and tight shots of faces moaning. They were all PGβmaybe the R-rated ones were a little more gratuitous, but I was too nervous to search for them on my family computer. As a gay teenager still in the closet, these muted portrayals of queer sexuality only furthered the idea that my identity was something I needed to hide.
Thankfully, as cinematography has evolved, so has mainstream media's portrayal of intimacy across the spectrum of sexuality. Here for it? Yes, I am. My hope is that these graphic, raw sex scenes will help those still exploring their identities to understand their sexualities are completely normal, no matter who they prefer. It's gotten to that point where these days, sex scenes on Netflix can be more of a turn-on for me than actual porn.
Don't get it twisted: Porn is great when I want to see straight-up nudity and pretend that I don't need buckets of lube to make anal sex pleasurable. Full disclosure: As a gay man, I have absolutely zero authority over whether the female stimulation depicted is accurateβor fun.
So if you have strong feelings about anything below, I'm all ears. There's no way my words can do this groundbreaking TV series justice. Between and , The L Word gave the world a modern view into lesbian lives. If the promise of sensual sex scenes isn't enticing enough for you to give it a try do yourself a favor and watch the scene in the first episode where Bette and Tina hook up , the show's nuanced depiction of lesbian culture might be.
But I can say there's something about the raw clitoral stimulation sequencesβespecially the ones that aren't set to any background musicβthat stirs something inside me. In one particular car sex scene, they utter the words "Ahh, gentle," and "SlowlyβI said slowly! Doesn't sound very sexy, right? That's what made it so memorable. Anal sex requires a fair amount of coordination with a partner to make sure the partner on the receiving end is OK.
