Are you beset by existential worries? Tell him about your lifelong or in-the-moment problems at dearjames theatlantic. I have a friend I used to be very close withβI was in her wedding party eight years agoβbut life circumstances, life goals, and geographic distance have rendered us a lot less so. She also posted an Instagram Story that made me think her cat was dead. But I follow her partner, too, and it seems that this person now lives in a separate city with the cat.
I feel called to check in, but all avenues seem awkward. Our last text exchange was just sharing links to news stories from months ago. If my presumption is wrong, then reaching out would be even more awkward. Any insight here? Dear Reader,. The cat has moved.
The self-help quotes are proliferating. I smell brokenness. The question is: Do you want to help her? Or are you just kind of fascinatedly tracking the downturn in her online vibes? If you do want to help herβand you were in her wedding party, which in my book gives you a stake, however remote, in this marriageβthen I see nothing wrong with checking in via text, carrier pigeon, whatever.
In fact, I would say: Definitely do it. Encourage her, if you can, to give an account of herself that exceeds the pixelated Instagram version. Skip to content Site Navigation The Atlantic. Popular Latest Newsletters. Search The Atlantic. Quick Links. Sign In Subscribe. About the Author. James Parker. James Parker is a staff writer at The Atlantic. Instagram , James Parker , Dating and Relationships.
