Dating after divorce is not for the faint of heart. It bears very little resemblance to never-marriedsomething dating. I should know. So for you newbies, here is my best advice, in the form of a survival guide. Take it with you whenever you dare to engage in post-divorce dating. Trust me.
I thought I was ready after three weeks. I went out and found three guys to date. What a woman I was! I could attract and keep three men pursuing me, all at the same time! Needless to say, none of those guys are still around.
You see, newly divorced people often have something to prove. I dated a man who was newly divorced. He pursued me relentlessly. It lasted all of three weeks. He swept me off my feet and then dumped me on my tush. Because hello, he was only divorced for three months when I met him.
They have so much unfinished emotional business that they simply are not ready to get emotionally involved with someone new. After my three guy phase, I decided maybe the naysayers were right. This book took me through the mental work I needed to do to get me on the road to being relationship ready again. In time. Not right away. Everyone who is divorced has some baggage. I am responsible for unpacking my own bags. At least the biggest ones. So we can be fit to live with.
Everything you remember about dating has changed. Now you have an ex. You likely have kids. You have a lot of responsibilities. You have the financial challenges that come from the divorce.
