We had minimal interaction, so that helped, too. Fast-forward six months, and my husband and I separated after years of strain. I had fallen out of love with my husband long before meeting Ben. It was at this exact time that Ben began initiating conversation more often. My feelings for him grew stronger and stronger. This felt nice and was a welcome distraction while going through my divorce. So much has been left unsaid. I want to know what Ben thinks and if the feelings truly are mutual.
I have researched what to do in this situation and nothing seems to help. I respect his wife, and care so much for his kids. I could never cross the line further than I already have. Not being able to act on my feelings is getting so difficult for me that I am considering getting a new job. I am torn. Ultimately I am wondering, how do I keep my job and get over the heartbreak of liking someone who is unavailable? It is ethically and morally wrong to pursue the married father of the children you are caring for.
It is just as wrong for him to pursue you, too β but this is about you. This is another one of those times. You should not remain in this household. Get another position. Within two weeks of leaving, your ardor will die down, you will start to realize how close you flew to the flame, and you will be justifiably proud that you did the right thing β or rather, that you did not do the wrong thing.
Dear Amy: I have been separated from my spouse for four months and am slowly moving through the divorce process. How might this be viewed by women who might want to date me?
Or should I just wait till my divorce is finalized? Dear On the Sidelines: Some women will not care about your marital status because they might not be interested in a longer-term relationship. Anyone can state that they are separated, and someone looking for a no-strings-fling might be attracted to someone they perceive as unavailable.
