I wish there was some sort of girl code when it comes to friends who hook up with random strangers, and or their ex-boyfriends, when we are out partying. I find it puzzling when you go out on the night with a friend, and they magically disappear on the dance floor because they got waylaid by Tom on the way from the toilet. I thought this only used to happen during our youth when my young cousin related how she was bamboozled when a friend she had gone to a party with recently, did not have the courtesy to send her a text message that she was sneaking away with an ex-boyfriend after the two met again in a house party two years after their affair ended.
To top it off, the two had gone out partying in the friend's car who had invited her to tag along for company. She says what was interesting is that she could see her friend's car parked in the driveway, but someone told her she saw the same friend get into the car with the boy in the red hoodie [the ex-boyfriend concerned]. Now she had to spend money she did not budget to see herself home all the way to Midrand from a party in Dainfern, and she was livid.
In our days, there were not many cellphones and the reliable Uber, so going out as a group of girls was also about safety in numbers.
Imagine your lusty friend leaving you stranded kilometres from home as she hunkered after a new or old flame. In my cousin's case, the friend was too embarrassed to explain to her that after disparaging her boyfriend's character during their time apart, that her heart forgot all those bad things he had done when she locked eyes with him.
Weeks later, when it transpired they could be rekindling their old love, my cousin found herself having to recall what bad things she had said about the boyfriend during their break-up. You know friends usually take your side by pointing out your ex's negative attributes in their attempt to help you get over him. I told her about a time when a former colleague also pulled a fast one on me and another acquaintance.
