My attraction is certainly at odds with my identity as a CrossFit athlete and as a health and wellness writer, but again and again, I lust after James Dean types and their ashtray-scented skin.
Well, a quick stroll down memory lane reminds me that my first significant other was a smoker. Check, nostalgia. Check, comfort. A string of smokers followed in her trail of cigarette butts, and they all contributed to cultivating my attraction to people who light up.
But most notably and enduringly, there was J, who had been smoking for close to 20 years when we connected. Throughout our year together, her habit nay, addiction indeed turned me on, but it also became a huge issue as we got more serious. Smoking may have drawn me to her initially, but it ultimately kept me from fully committing.
Research shows that heavy smokers cut their lifespan by 13 years—not to mention being around one increases my own risk of heart disease, lung cancer, and stroke via secondhand smoke. Some are drawn to potentially destructive or simply emotionally confusing types like soft boys or narcissists. Next, actively explore what else does it for you.
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