In the early stages of just about anything that could potentially impact your life in a major way, like a burgeoning relationship , there are bound to be feelings of uneasiness. In fact, a lot of the time, they only get magnified once you meet someone you click with. Although first dates can be a little awkward at first, these tips can help you feel more comfortable and confident!
Check out our first-date tips to make sure everything goes smoothly the next time you're out dining and winning. Also read: Are live-in relationships good for mental health? Talia Koren, dating coach and relationship expert shared in her recent Instagram post top tips for feeling calmer and confident in the early stages of dating.
The more pressure you put on dating, and the more you put people and romantic relationships on a pedestal, the more anxiety you'll have. Lower the stakes and you'll feel calmer. You don't need your next date to work out to survive. You're going to be ok if it doesn't pan out. If you're having text anxiety, this is the time to lean into your life! Make a list of activities and distractions and pull them out when you feel like you're waiting for a text back. If Walking, journaling, crafts, cleaning, cooking, exercising, calling friends etc.
Our anxiety loves to fill in the blanks with stories and assumptions. But what if we let their actions and words be neutral instead?
When you sense your mind running off with stories about their behaviour, bring your thoughts back to the present, zoom out and review what's actually happening. Sometimes when we're in an anxiety spiral, it helps to just get it all down on paper and out of mind. It's also a good way to feel through it rather than avoid the feeling through intellectualizing or just taking action.
