Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. I want to know, trust and like the person before anything physical. Now the other threads I looked about waiting were older post that were mostly just saying women can have sex on a first day etc, but since these days the pendulum has swung to the opposite direction and now there is a huge pressure to have sex as soon as possible, how does one navigate this?
You talk to the person you're dating and tell them this, so they know where you stand? I'm sure you'll be able to find someone who thinks the same way as you do! Just go into all interactions as you, your true self. You just have to be yourself. If you're not it'll catch you out down the line anyway. And not just regarding sex.
Just go with what you want to do. Nobody is making you have sex, focus on enjoyment and communication and if that results at a point in time that suits you in an opportunity to get some then crack on. There isn't a number of dates or a formula to this. If he likes you and you like him and you want to then do it. If you don't, well don't. If he gets impatient or pushy he can fuck off and have sex with someone else while you continue to meet other men until you find one on the same wavelength.
Everyone waits until their comfortable. No problems taking your time and if they care they'll wait. It'll work or not. There's no harm in following your own feelings. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. I have to fancy someone and trust and respect them. I do occasionally OLD, it's very possible to keep the standards you want. I wouldn't say it makes dating any harder, in fact I think it makes it easier, you can rule out most of the men on there which saves a lot of time!
Just tell the guys you meet that you want to get to know each other better before taking it to the next level. Is it really so unusual these days to want to get to know each other first, that it needs a name for it? Any blokes that don't hang around and don't want to get to know you, are natural wastage and it's all to the good, let them go unmourned.
